In my nearly 20 year relationship with my wife, I can tell you the two things that have been most important in us staying together and having a happy, healthy relationship: compromise and communication. It is insanely important to know that, once you are in a partnership with another person, your wants/needs/desires must still be met but not at the expense of the other person.
Compromise is key to everyone in the relationship getting a fair stake in life. One person can not always get what they want at the expense of the other person getting nothing they want. Compromise is a way that both parties come away with something that they want or need, therefore making both parties happy in the end. There are times when it seems like compromise will not work, but, if you look deep enough, there is almost always room for compromise.
Communication, and I can not stress this enough, is so important in any relationship. You must be willing to say what you mean and be 100% honest with the other person, even if you know you are going to hurt them. Healing from an argument, creating change in the relationship, keeping the relationship exciting and fun, can not be done without honest communication. You must not be afraid of any topics and must talk daily, even if only to discuss the grocery list or what happened at work. Talking daily to your significant other creates intimacy on a mental level, and this intimacy leads to closeness on all levels within the relationship.
If you are in a relationship or considering one, please know that without communication and compromise, it is destined to fail. In order for any relationship to work, both parties’ needs must be met and their feelings heard and respected.
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