Relationships with a partner are hard! That is a given fact in today’s society. The increase of divorce or separation has become an overwhelming statistic. It seems as if the prevailing attitude toward any relationship is a "throw away" attitude. I have heard many say even before a marriage or the beginning of a relationship "Well if it doesn’t work out there’s always divorce" or "if it doesn’t work out I can always leave". This leaves one with the attitude that no one cares about staying together.
One of the main keys to any relationship is the trait of mutual trust and respect. If you don’t respect or trust your partner, there will not be a atmosphere of peace in the home. The first step in picking a domestic partner is to find someone who has similar interest in life. You will not be happy if your partner is always going off to meetings or to groups which you do not like. This is not to say that you can’t have some differences. It would be a boring household indeed if there was not some different aspects of life. Going to have coffee with the girls or going to the game occasionally with the guys is a natural thing to do. But, if you do not trust that when your partner is out of your sight they will still be faithful, there is no reason to even consider a long term relationship. You also have to respect each other. You have to respect each other’s need for privacy sometimes and also respect each other’s need to have some alone time occasionally.
Relationships do take work and patience. My first marriage ended in divorce. Fortunately, it was a collaborative divorce, but it was a divorce nonetheless. My wife and I have been together (happily) for 28 years. We have had our differences, but we have talked like adults and worked things out. We have been together through three parents death, bankruptcy, difficulties and problems with children and even one child’s death. Our relationship is stronger now than it ever was because these incidents brought us closer because we worked together to get through them instead of shutting each other out.
Now I’m not saying we’re perfect, because no one is. But we accept each other’s quirks as something to look over or love each other for rather than to draw us apart. So to sum up, love each other, trust each other, respect each other, and try to act like adults when problems come up. Best of luck and pick your partner based not only on the outside but more importantly based on what’s on the inside.
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